Re: Henna Baby Shower
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Posted by Amy C on September 29, 1999 at 18:27:32:
In Reply to: Re: Henna Baby Shower posted by Becky M. on September 29, 1999 at 15:47:45:
: Instead of games, I thought we could all tell our birth stories, and : pass on a bit of advice for mothering 2 children. I have never had a baby, so take this thought for whatever it's worth: I have had many patients ask me for help in stopping the birth stories when it comes near labor time. It can really raise their fears during a time that is already anxious. In contrast, they can't share these stories enough after the birth is over. It is very valuable to process the experience, especially with other mothers. It seems to me that well-meaning friends and relatives forget what those last weeks leading up to labor can be like (emotionally) and feel the need to share birth stories in a way that is sometimes not welcome. I have heard this even from women having their second baby. So my suggestions would be a) ask the mother-to-be if this sounds fun to her first and b) focus on the positive in whatever stories you share (for example, if you had to have a c-secion, what information helped you feel less frightened by it, etc.). I am sure you have no intentions of making her feel anxious, but it is natural & normal for women who have had traumatic births to tell 'war stories', almost involuntarily. Something to think about from an outside observer. Mothers, feel free to correct me if I'm wrong. I'm interested in other perspectives.
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