Re: An axe grinding racist, huh? Now that is funny...lol!!!


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Posted by Maria on May 29, 2002 at 21:57:41:

In reply to: An axe grinding racist, huh? Now that is funny...lol!!! posted by Maureen on May 29, 2002 at 19:04:10:

I really didn't want to expend time or energy on this thread because
I have alot going on but I just want to say this:

As a woman "of color" (meaning not white) and a fledgeling henna
artist, I completely agree that a) henna looks different on
different skin tones and b)"different" does not mean better or
worse.

I enjoyed reading Anne's post and did not take offense. I would hope
that Anne and others still feel they can freely post their
experiences and feelings without someone analyzing and
interpreting/misinterpreting every little thing. While I have read
some posts that made me think "hey, so what if my skin is darker...I
still do delicate designs and I still like to experiment on
different parts of my body." I find it insulting that someone would
consider us (women of color) so dim that we cannot take
responsibility for informing ourselves about what we put on our
bodies , how we beautify them, and exactly how they work.

I had really hoped not to get into this because I have read and
enjoyed and learned from both of you. Honestly, when I first read
your (Maureen's) response to Anne's original post, I
thought..."where did that come from?" then remembered the other
posts that I think you were reacting to. After reading Anne's
clarification, I thought I would next read something like "no big
deal, maybe I jumped the gun a little" and it would be over. I was
wrong. I shouldn't have made that assumption. All the energy spent
belaboring the point and ranting on this board could be better spent
illustrating your point by creating beautiful art on beautiful skin
of every shade, in my opinion. What is the point of lashing out,
attacking, agressively debating, whatever you want to call it? That
rarely gets anybody anywhere. What's that moms like to say, "you
catch more flies with honey" or something to that effect.

We are not enemies here are we? We are not the bad guys. We can make
our points without the subtly or not so subtly condescending tones,
can't we? As far as worrying about people interpreting posts in
certain ways even if the intent is something completely
different...give me a break. I believe in personal responsibility.
If I choose to interpret something in a certain way, jump to
conclusions, or make uninformed decisions...that's my bad. Period.

I could tell you story after story about being raised in a family
that was ashamed of their heritage and color.About a country that
sees lighter skinned people as more refined, higher class, more
beautiful, etc. If I told you these stories, I would be making an
observation and relating a fact. It has no reflection on how I
feel...I obviously LIKE the way I look and wish the situation would
change. Just because these things are mentioned does not mean the
person telling the story is perpetuating this attitude. In fact, it
may be quite the contrary. I apologize in advance if I make anyone
feel bad with this post. Most likely, I will look back at my post
when I'm not so upset and wish I would have phrased things better. I
always do. But I say what I need to say.

Blessings to all,
Maria

: Hi Anne,
:
: I assure you that I have no axe to grind...except against any
notion
: that people of color should not expect the same excellent results
: from a good henna paste as any other group of people. But one
could
: grind a warehouse full of axes down and not impact the thoughts
and
: beliefs of people fixed in beliefs and behaviors and unwilling to
: admit how words they have posted here, can and will be
interpreted.
: I am not interested in expending valuable resourse on axes. Just
: posting the opposing view.
:
: Regarding your comment:
:
: : I also cannot understand what sort of axe she's trying to grind
: here,
: : by claiming I am either racist, promoting PPD, or both.
:
: WOW Anne, that is quite a projection since I never called you a
: racist or stated that you were promoting PPD. Since it was not
what
: I said, you might want to consider where that thought came from!
:
:
: :" Once more reiterating my position: informing clients about how
: henna
: : works has nothing to do with the color of their skin; it has to
do
: : with the nature of henna. I want to inform, to educate, and to
give
: : them results they will be happy with. Period."
:
: This is a good position. If this had been your initial post, I
would
: not be writing this now. But it was not part of your original
post.
: That is the problem. I am very glad that this discourse has
brought
: you to this particular point and statement. All was not in vain I
: see.
:
: : "As Kenzi says, pulling the race card is counterproductive to
this
: : discussion, and I hope that this is the end of this unfortunate
: : misunderstanding."
:
: I repeat for you as I posted above to Kenzi, the race card was put
in
: the deck by others not by me. Why should anyone get angry when
: anyone separates out the problematic card from the rest of the
cards
: in the deck they are holding up. The notion that I pulled "the"
race
: card when pointing out some insensitivity inherent in some of the
: posts here is just plain silly. You can use any defense and
assault
: you like to refuse to face the words and potential interpretations
of
: those words...but when the dust settles, the reality will remain
the
: same and still be there to face.
:
: The "Maureen against the entire forum" climate your comment is
: intended to create is even more silly. But even if it was "only
: Maureen" seeing the implication in those posts...that is enough.
It
: would be great if it were "only Maureen." But, what I know is
that
: it is not "only Maureen" and will not be "only Maureen." Because
: those posts exists and people will come and go from the forum page
: and read those posts. People we know are here and people we do
not
: know are here come and go. My posts are for those
folks...especially
: people of color who need to know that they will get excellent
stains
: with henna on their dark skin...despite other posts implying the
: contrary. Am I concerned with being the only voice pointing out
the
: problem with those posts? Heck no!!! Better one than none!
:
: It is too bad the degree of defensiveness in your statements. But
: better defensiveness than complacency with the statements made.
If
: this discussion made you uncomfortable, I assure you that your
: measure of discomfort will not approach that of many people of
color
: who would read a statement that indicated their henna designs
placed
: on their dark skin would not be visible or seen from a distance.
:
: Anyone without knowledge of the politics of skin color should
: probably avoid bringing up the topic.
:
: An axe to grind requires something to grind against. Had I an axe
to
: grind, this would have indeed been a good place and issue though.
:
: Maureen
:

 


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