Re: An axe grinding racist, huh? Now that is!!!

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Posted by Maureen on May 29, 2002 at 22:58:57:

In reply to: Re: An axe grinding racist, huh? Now that is!!! posted by Maria on May 29, 2002 at 21:57:41:

Hi Maria,

You have said what you need to say. And I have said what I needed to
say. You do not speak for all women of color and neither do I.
Never said I did. But for the ones who see things the way I have in
those statements...well, my words are for them.

Why you thought I would feel that Anne got the point, notwithstanding
what else she had to say, in a post in which she accused me of having
a axe to grind and "pulling the race card" is beyond me. Clearly you
and I are also capable of disagreeing on this point as well.

You tell the African American women that I have dealt with that they
were "dim" when they were told and believed that getting a "black
henna" design was their best option because the natural henna did not
show up well on their skin. They made the best choice based upon the
information they were provided. Responsibility does not belong
simply on the side of the person obtaining the henna design. It also
rests with the henna artists. If given the good and correct
information people make good choices. It they do not then they are

You underestimate Kenzi and Anne if you think anything I have said
will prevent them from posting their experiences and opinions. They
will continue. Just as your interpretation of my intent and what I
should be doing with my time will not prevent my commentary to
comments that I feel lack sensitivity...when I choose to do so. That
indeed is something often done here from time to time. But for you
to think for a moment that your lack of reaction to some of the posts
and willingness to go past the inferences is the same reaction that
everyone will have would be a mistake.

Perhaps when you reach my age you too will have enough experiences to
not take seriously the notion that you "catch more flies with honey"
when you are dealing with people. You catch some and some you
don't. That is the reality. My posts have no intention of catching
anything from the people who posted the comments I have responded
to. That is no reflection on them. Just that it was never the
intent of the posts. Again, I reiterate, my posts are for the people
of color who may read those posts and be lead to believe that the
darkness of their skin can prevent them from obtaining excellent
stains from pure and natural henna powder.

Since the Henna Forum has a significant position in the places people
will come to inform themselves on henna and what to expect when they
use it (including women of color), the posts here on the Forum, then
becomes a big piece of what some people will put into the equations
when they are informing themselves. It is not an insult to women of
color, Maria, to be sensitive to the content of the information that
people will get from this important source of information. So I do
not just go pass some statements and leave it up to others who read
it to know better or not...Good if they do...Too bad if they don't!
That is another difference in the two of us obviously. And
difference is good...with no value judgements attached.

Hmmmmmmmmmm...I keep making that same point.



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