Re: in the public too long? people apathy?


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Posted by Maureen on May 30, 2002 at 03:25:04:

In reply to: in the public too long? people apathy? posted by Darla so Dreadly on May 30, 2002 at 01:08:49:

Hi Darla,

I can really empathize with the fatigue you appear to be expressing
with the issues that come up so frequently when dealing with the
public. I have a younger brother who used to drag me along to
festivals, fairs and conferences as a vendor. He thrived on the
interaction. I was in agony. My good girlfriend is the same as my
brother when dealing with the public. Even the most aggravating
situation is for her...just another opportunity to interact with
someone new. She and my brother appear tireless in their ability to
enjoy the interaction and exchages. I consider them extreme. But do
think their personality would be the thing to have if you have to
deal with the public in large numbers in your work.

I think we normal people do get tired and burnt out from all of the
hassle from time to time. And it is good to recognize when that is
occurring and pull back some (if possible). Knowing if what you are
needing is alone time vs surrounded by caring and supportive people
time...is helpful so you don't choose an alternative that is more or
just as problematic and not restful.

I don't choose to do any medium or large crowd affairs any more for
any reason. I am just not with it anymore. But I find that even
when working with small groups or individuals in capacities where you
are in the "giving" role requires having a built in way in your life
that your refuel. I strongly believe that the capacity and
opportunity to refuel is the difference between being able to keep on
going and not. Dealing with the public takes a lot out of you. Make
sure you have a way built in to your life to get some of that back
and to keep yourself replenished and refueled. If this stuff of the
world empties you out and feels personal, it is getting in too
deeply. Make sure you are treated to something good and delicious
(and this does not mean food) that you have because you want it and
for no other reason than you want it and deserve it. And make sure
it happens at least once a week. If nobody else is doing it for you,
do it for yourself...because you want it and you deserve it. It is
always easier to deal with the public and know their attitudes have
nothing to do with you, when you are feeling pampered and real
special.

I hope you find something to do for yourself this week that will be
wonderful to you and for you. If so, let us know so we can be
jealous...:-)

Maureen

 


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