Re: a resolution to the home appointment dilemma

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Posted by Lisa K on June 14, 2002 at 22:09:06:

In reply to: a resolution to the home appointment dilemma posted by Alissa on June 14, 2002 at 13:46:25:

I am so glad to hear resolution. It sounds solid as it can be under
the conditions we work in. After having met you, I feel you have
GREAT instincts and I know you trust and listen to them. I cannot
stress this enough. There is a book called The GIFT Of Fear. It
decifers why we get those flags or intuitions. We are able to
process so much information on so many different levels, so quickly
we don't realize it.

I know you want to live your life to the fullest and not let things
stand in the way. I admire the fact that you shared your dilema with
the forum. I know there are several, if not all, that have faced the
same issue. I sure do. I know that your post as well as those that
responded shared great tips in regards to keeping ourselves safe
while still being able to do something that gives us so much pleasure.

: I decided to post my personal "results" from the previous post I
: regarding my dilemma over home appointments and personal safety for
: henna artists. First, I want to thank everyone who posted a reply
: previously, I went over the messages several times to consider what
: others said. Maureen and Paul's words were escpially helpful and
: sobering. It *did* help me be more objective to hear the same
: from a less invovled person.
: In a nutshell, Jason (my husband) again reiterated that in his
: opinion home appointments are dangerous, dangerous beyond what he
: would personally feel safe doing himself. (J is a former Marine,
: he's not a guy who scares easy). He is, though, more conservative
: than I am. He conceeded though that what I chose to do was
: my business, and although he may have an opinion on it, he knows
: better than to tell me what I can or can't do.
: We talked about other ideas for home appointments, and during our
: talk he asked me about what other henna artists do. I told him that
: posed this safety issue on the Forum and he thought that was a
: idea, getting info from everyone else on how they handled it. Some
: the suggestions I received I brought up while talking, and some
: quite helpful for resolving our own situation.
: In the end, we decided that for home appointments I would leave
: him the name, address and phone number of where I would be. Once
: there, I call him (in front of the guest) to let him know I made
it. -
: - This was the biggest thing that Jason liked of all the
: we discussed. His primary concern was I could walk into a dangerous
: situation that was a "setup." By alerting the potential perpetrator
: that I had a party who knew where I was, and that I was checking in
: regularly, hopefully that might deter someone who had serious
: mischief on their minds (pass me up for a better potential victim).
: Once finished with the appointment, I call J again when I'm safely
: my car and on the way home.
: I feel fine with this arrangement, and I'm willing to admit that
: appointments do have a higher risk potential than meeting in public
: places. However, like some mentioned, all of life is a risk and
: we are preyed upon doing things we might consider perfectly safe. I
: was once almost assaulted by 2 men in broad daylight, 11:30 am on
: Saturday, on a busy street while going to the outside ATM at a
: convenience store. I was surrounded by people, it was daylight, it
: was supposed to be "safe" and I still came home crying
: at my own close call. One drove a van, and the other came running
: after me as if he were gonna grab me "to give me a hug". I made it
: to my vehicle and got the key in the ignition before the man got
: hands on me (he was literally reaching into my truck while I was
: putting the keys in, yelling "Hey! Hey!" still, like he knew me).
: Whole incident scared the fuck outta me -- and yet I did
: everything "right" and was supposed to have been "safe".
: So the point of that digression was to say that yes, we live in
: danger, yes we can minimize that danger, and yes we can still live
: our lives. And for me, still practice our craft. In any case, I
: my own experience helps any other artists who are dealing with
: similar home appointment safety issues.


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