People with no ears to hear
Posted by Maureen on July 11, 2002 at 16:13:36:
When people with ears act as if they have no ears to hear, either
they hear you very well and are being defensive by pretending they
cannot "get" what you are saying...Or, they are what I refer to as a
constipated system and are too filled up to take anything new in.
That is difficult to deal with if you are wanting a change in the
person's behavior or thinking right away. It usually takes time for
people to take in new information. Especially if what you are
telling them is in direct conflict with what they have come to
believe. But, if you see your role as just providing the information
and their role as allowing it to sink in or not, then you know you
did your part. If you keep providing the information, you may be
sure that it is sinking in for some people. You may never know which
ones "got it." That "getting it" thing may not happen in front of
you. It might take one more voice added to your voice for the
information to sink in. Or your providing the information once may
make someone forever suspect of the black stuff without you ever
knowing it. So, just keep doing your part and leave it to the
receiver of the information to do what they need to do with it.
Don't let your day be warned because you don't see the light bulb go
on in their heads. Just know that you provided the bulb. They have
to pay their own electricity bill.
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