Posted by Maureen on July 18, 2002 at 19:44:09:
The problem with snappy comebacks is that the person you are throwing
one at might just have another one waiting for you just a bit
snappier. I would pass up the opportunity for the snappy comeback
and just deal straight up.
The hook that is hung out for you is always in the first question.
If you answer that one innocently and with sincerity, some people are
just waiting to hammer you with their nonsense. So my approach is
always to catch that first question or comment.
What is it? "It is henna. And if you really want to learn something
about it I will be glad to tell you. But if you are just being silly
or have something negative to say, then I'm not going to waste your
time or let you waste mine." I usually say this with a very sincere
look on my face and in a very kind tone of voice. It is not meant to
be aggressive. I have found that usually sobers people up pretty
quickly into knowing that the henna is something I take seriously and
that I am not willing to broke much nonsense about it. The people
who may be seriously interested but just want to have something
offensive to say will usually bypass the offensive statement and ask
appropriate questions. People who never had a real interest in the
first place and who were only looking for the opportunity to take a
cheap shot are usually silent or say that they are not interested.
The latter works for me as well.
People you know well are often very like to say some silly things as
well. Usually they are just trying to be funny about something they
know nothing about. To friends and family I have said, "Now that I
listened to what you think about my henna, you now have to listen to
what I think about it." Then I tell them EVERYTHING I know...LOL!!!
By the time I am finished, they either know enough to ask good
questions and/or make good comments next time...Or they avoid the
topic like the plague. Either works for me...:-)
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