Re: Update: I did but I didn't

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Posted by Maureen on July 19, 2002 at 04:01:12:

In reply to: Update: I did but I didn't posted by Angi on July 18, 2002 at 22:44:57:

Hi Angi,

Actually, I see this as a biggie. The store owner did not have to
move the product and does not profit from moving the product and
prior to your visits had no reason to move his products. I wouldn't
measure your success merely by the move of the product but instead by
nature of the fact that you moved him to move his product. That is a
change of mind. That does not come easy to people. I think anytime
you get movement you chock it up as success. You can't expect to
move a mountain the first time you push up against it. But one spoon
of dirt and one rock at a time and one day, the mountain has been
moved or at least a trail has been blazed.

I hope you left the information for him to keep on hand. It arms him
with printed information to read later and to provide to others, as

It is important to remember, when we are on our "mission" regarding
black henna or any other cause that we sign up for, that as we are
speaking to someone about some product or some action that we
perceive as potentially harmful to others, that we are indeed
speaking to "someone." It never makes much sense to me to justify
injuring of any one person for our cause...or to make assumptions
about why they are selling what they are selling. What is important
is to engage a human being from the perspective of one human being to
another with the same respect and behavior towards them as we would
want and demand for ourselves. Then you can link and join with them
as oppose to alienating and becoming a combatant.

You gave him the information. He made a change. Let's be respectful
of the change. And give yourself credit for providing him with the
information he needed to have a reason to make a change....however
large or small.

I would say job well done. There is no failure on your part that he
did not have an immediate conversion. I have problems with people
who propose to "see the light" too quickly. You now have an
opportunity to continue to provide him a bit more of information each
time you see him. He would not be the first store owner selling a
product that his customers knew more about than he himself did. He
just might appreciate the sharing of a good customer.

And I truly hope that any and all of us that go into stores, Indian,
Iranian or any other "ethnic or not" store near us and speak about
their products, that we are going in as a good neighbor and a good
customer. Meaning that we are there to shop and spend money and show
our appreciation for the richness that their store adds to our
communities and to our lives...not just there to criticize a
product. I am sure that this last statement was not even needed.
Ofcourse that is how we enter someone else's space. I am sure it is.



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