Re: Ninja henna
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Posted by Kenzi on August 23, 2002 at 21:51:14:
In reply to:
Ninja henna posted by
jessica on August 23, 2002 at 20:53:30:
: thank you. Glad to know Kenzi we aren't the only ones dealing with
: this . It's annoying and upsetting, there is just something that is
: not crossing a cultural rift here and it makes for awkward and
: uncomfortable exchanges.
I am also glad to hear I am not alone. It's a strange relief!
: I have a secondary problem though. This summer at several events we
: were very, very busy with 4-5 people working and the ethnic womens
: husbands approached us and wanted to offer the services of the wife
: or daughters. They are really good at mehndi and you're busy so
: they'll help you.
: Though I'm flattered that these folks are feeling comfortable
: to want to work with us I still have more than a pang about it. It
: often feelslike there is an insinuation that they should be making
: the money since they really know what they're doing, not us. Or if
: were better the line would move faster, not withstanding the 3 of
: hennaing with the rapid 3 minutes per person we average!
: They were really persistent... So - how do we say no, remain
: and open without saying absolutely I cannot have stranger working
: here under my name applying what is supposed to be quality,
: consistent designs from my binder.Your designs are not okay here -
: seems to be super insulting but the truth. And besides, I have
: resevations about you being friendly and comforting with my
: So- phew, though it's better that we are having some communication
: open up, it's certainly not the type I prefer. And I certainly am
: sure how to graciously tell them "nope,thanks though."
: ANy suggestion or insight?? ANy one else had this ninja henna
: experience with the ethnic ladies???
Hmmm, that's a tough one. If you are open to adding new people to
your team, getting help in future events, it might be worth
exploring. What I would do in this situation would be to thank the
person, tell that you are all set for today but that you are always
interested in meeting and working with new henna artists. Then tell
him/her that you would love to see examples of her work and could
they send you photos, or maybe come over and do some henna on you.
I had someone this past weekend (the friend of the one telling me how
to do henna) who wanted to borrow my bottle to henna her friends
instead of paying me to henna them (whatever!); she was doing kinda
crappy work I must admit but they were having fun. The one doing the
hennaing asked one of my freshly-hennaed client (photo of her hand
above) who was hanging around the booth where she got her henna
done. I heard this and just said to myself, "what the f? who else?
jeez!" The woman was impressed and surprised and asked me to henna
the same design on her; I hennaed her and then she refused to pay
saying I didn't tell her the price in advance. Oy!!!