Re: What to do about unsupportive family
Posted by Theadora on September 9, 2002 at 18:36:39:
Your story sounds so familar to me as I am sure it does for many
others. You are in very good company. I faced that kind of subtle
and not so subtle ridicule from family and especially from my father
about henna and other things. Appearently if you choose your own
path in life and it differs from the expectations of society or our
families opininon it is sometimes difficult for them to understand
or appreciate. Sometimes people just dont get it and think its
somehow amuseing to belittle us for our choices weather it be body
adornment, fashion or lifestyle.
Henna is perhaps just not in his vocabulary. It outside of his
world. People have very set ideas based on the past and media about
how women should beautify themselves properly.
I reccommend the book/tape 'Women Who Run With the Wolves'
She tells some great stories in relation to your question. I
remember in particular the story of The misplaced Zygote.That
explained a lot for me.
It sounds like you have NOT let your father question your personal
expressions of art and beauty.
Your family may even get more accustomed to mehndi as time goes by.
Now my father askes me to henna his wife!
: I would like opinions, or stories of experiences from other Henna
: artist, etc. I have always been artistic, my degree is in Graphic
: design, and my parents being medical proffesionals have struggled
: understand it sometimes, but have been mostly supportive. Seeing
: this past weekend was a little discouraging for me. It was the
: firstimte I had seen then when my hands were "beautifully hennaed"
: (as CCj suggests in her businees rant, to attract possible victim,
: and/or clients) My mother did not comment on it at all, but my
: told me I had dirt on me (haha), and then told me it looks trashy.
: exact response was "well, it semms as if I don't care" I know this
: seems a little harsh, but he took it as I meant it, and we wen on
: about the day as usual, except for one more instance when he tried
: rub the henna off my wrist.
: I am just wondering if anyone has any advise or related stories? I
: sure I will never change my father's opinion of art, so I will not
: waste my creative energy on a task that is fruitless. I am just
: curious about how other's families have reacted to henna.
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