Re: What to do about unsupportive family
Posted by Kenzi on September 9, 2002 at 21:50:16:
you have other more supportive people in your life.
My mother, who is an artist, doesn't like henna because she has a lot
of moles and says that she wouldn't want more brown spots on her skin
than she already has. I guess I can understand her perspective but I
regret that it has kept her from appreciating henna. Because she is
an artist I try talking to her about the artistic aspects of henna
(instead of trying to convince her to be hennaed). I send her new
designs and ask her opinion, when we talk about art I mention how
certain things inspire my henna designs etc. In that way she can be
very engaged and I am okay with that.
I think that we need to find our own solace and inspiration within
ourselves if we are doing henna, as much of the world doesn't
appreciate it. Some people seem to think that it's okay to make fun
of your art when it's henna, but wouldn't dare laugh at someone's
painting or sculpture or say that it looks like dirt. It's a shame
but that's the reality. I believe that we need to keep adorning
ourselves with beautiful henna and show it off so that people can
start getting used to it and appreciating it more. I think that your
parents will come around once they get used to it, and maybe if they
saw you working they would really understand what is involved in your
art. I have been doing henna for about 4 years and no one in my
family has ever wanted it done, not even my sister who is open to a
lot; she never said "no" but she never said "yes" either. Then one
day I had my henna with me at an outdoor concert with her and some
friends, and I was hennaing my friends. My sister got to see me work
and look at my books and suddenly had to have some for herself. Once
she saw what it took to do a design and saw the design developed she
seemed to have more respect for it. Now she suggests I bring my
henna stuff along all the time!
Give the 'rents time and they will come around!
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