Re: not at a loss for words.....very very long "nearly topic" rant
Posted by zaija on July 14, 2003 at 15:20:24:
In reply to: not at a loss for words.....very very long "nearly topic" rant posted by Willowhawk on July 12, 2003 at 22:49:50:
Justine...My response to this is definitely biased because I knowyour kids personally. Ignore the twit who suggested ADHD...Come on !
she relinquised her child to foster care then dared to advise you?
I'd be furious enough trying to bite my tounge on that topic alone.
I bow in respect to your goddess-like strength. I probably wouldn't
have handled a situation like that so gracefully as you did.
Your little guy is extremely intelligent. please don't ever restrain
his mission to satisfy his curiosity... His little body can barely
keep up with his brain, that's why he's so active! Also, remember
that when he has his vocal "tirades" it's because he's frustrated.
He's only barely 3 and doesn't yet have the language skills to
express himself in any other way. "Grown-ups" who view these simple
aspects of childhood as "bad behavior" are a dangerous threat to a
child's healthy emotional and intellectual development. You did the
right thing to remove your beautiful boys from that horrid
environment.
Your Older boy is a pleasant, polite, delightful young man who is a
joy to be around. He is a direct reflection of your superior
parenting skills. Don't ever let any ignorant so-called "grown-up"
try to tell you differently. You did a good job with him, and you're
doing a good job with the little one. Please continue to channel the
little one's growth as you do.
Continue to keep him close to you. Please Don't stash him away in a
daycare where his curiosity and growth might be restrained and
squashed for the sake of some impatient "grown-ups" convienience.
When my three kids were little, I did what ever I could to have work
that allowed me to keep them with me or hubby. It was challenging
and exhausting but so worth it. I think my kids turned out pretty
good as a result. (check me on this if you think I'm delusional!)
continue to take the kids with you and they'll learn the boundaries
and routines, and it will become a family enterprise. You know
others that have succeeded at this type of parenting too....think
about the people you know: A vendor family who is extremely
successful with awsome little boys,(who just happens to enjoy your
little guys company) and theres the garb designer/vendor with a
lovely little girl, the list could go on and on, but you get my
drift, right? So, you're just getting started at teaching him "the
ways" of your life-style. Keep it up. Get help if you need it. It
CAN and WILL be an awsome way for the kids to grow up.
I'll be really bold here, and make a prediction: By the time your
little guy is a teenager, he will be running intellectual circles
around those rude and ignorant people who were your vending
neighbors!
As for others assuming to "teach" things to your children...(say
please, etc.) That's a debatable topic. One person might say "it
takes a village to raise a child", another might say "how you raise
your children is no one elses business". The bottom line might be
the attitude towards the child. My kids have learned wonderful
things from beautiful people, like those who helped me teach the
kids our ways of worship and tribal society. Then there's the ugly,
self centered abusive types that you just have to try to avoid. My
attitude is that good, uplifting and nurturing input from loving
friends is a priceless bonus. The others can go to H--- !
The little one's antics are amusing, exhausting, amazing and
frustrating all at the same time. I know how it is, believe me !
anyone who doesn't appreciate that isn't worthy of your company.
I wish I could give you a hug too. Love to you and the boys....Z.
Follow Ups
- Re: not at a loss for words.....very very long "nearly topic" rant
Willowhawk 16:17:51 7/14/2003
(0)