Good writing, Nick! n/t
Posted by Anne Beltestad on August 15, 2003 at 06:20:42:
In reply to: My final letter to him posted by Nick on August 14, 2003 at 19:06:19:
: Below is the letter that I sent to him this morning::
: Fine, you win. I'll stop trying to contribute to this community in
: the best way I know how, because I can see that it's not welcome.
If
: you are going to tell me over and over again that the art I pour
: myself into is nothing but meaningless fashion, i don't need to
: listen to that. I can only assume that this is the first time
you've
: had any serious contact with henna, and your unwillingness to hear
my
: reasoning astounds me. The bottom line remains in my eyes that the
: interest is there. I'm not the only person on BME who would read
: something like I originally had in mind to write for you. And what
: you have in the current gallery of henna photos is such a poor
: representation. All I wanted to do was to do what i can to help
: improve that one aspect of bme for other readers with similar
: interests. But I can see that all my efforts aren't good enough.
For
: a community built around the ideals of acceptance, growth, and
: positive change, things sure have gotten narrow minded around here.
: And as a final hopeless stab at your reasoning for why henna
: shouldn't be here, henna makes people happy. I have known self
: cutters who were introduced to henna and stopped cutting. Henna
gave
: them a reason to beautify their bodies rather than destroy them. An
: important focus of this website is replacing destructive behavior
: with constructive things, like getting a piercing instead of
slitting
: one's wrists. Henna has performed that function, and to remove it
: would ensure that no reader of BME ever benefitted from it again.
On
: a final note, i've tried my hardest to give you good academic
reasons
: to include henna on BME, and been met with hostility. I've done
: nothing but try to satisfy your critera for what's included here.
: You've given me no reason to continue trying to win you over, so
i'm
: not going to.
: Respectfully yours,
: ~Nick Cartier
:
: And the following is his reply... useless and evasive as usual:
:
:
: >Fine, you win. I'll stop trying to contribute to this
: >community in the best way I know how, because I can see that
: >it's not welcome. If you are going to tell me over and over
: >again that the art I pour myself into is nothing but
: >meaningless fashion, i don't need to listen to that. I can
:
: I'm not telling you it's not meaningless fashion. I'm telling you
: it's not the subject matter of BME.
:
: AGAIN: Tell me how henna is either permanent body modification or
: body ritual. You have not done so. It doesn't matter how valid it
is,
: if it's not related to BME's subject matter, why would it be
covered?
:
: ---------
:
: Haven't i done so? I've given him many instances that could qualify
: as body ritual. It's already there, so why can't i add to it and
make
: it better? It's like talking to a freaking wall! I don't intend to
: write back, because this narrow minded jerk isn't worth any more of
: my time.
: ~Nick
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