Re: Questions
Posted by lisa on December 21, 1999 at 20:31:17:
In Reply to: Re: Questions posted by Catherine Cartwright Jones on December 20, 1999 at 20:38:37:
: It's at it's worst if someone thinks of you as
: somehow fundamentally (by race, sex, line of work, or ethnic
: background) servile. Decide your limits and don't budge. Unless
the
: person is truely warped, they know what "NO" means. They may have
: some damn power issue that compels them to ague with you about
: it...but even then, "#$%^ NO!"
Backing up the "NO" with appropriate body language (stand stiffly up,
look them right in the eye with a non-humorless expression) goes a
long way, too. It also helps if you dress a little mannishly (jeans
and a big flannel shirt work great.)
Or practice trying to make a withering, baleful expression. (The type
that Moms make when their kids come home at 2am with news that they
wrecked the new car.) The right expression will stop most people in
their tracks.