Re: One that had to be rushed

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Posted by Catherine Cartwright Jones on October 23, 2001 at 14:24:31:

In reply to: Re: One that had to be rushed posted by jolynn on October 23, 2001 at 05:40:11:

In my personal life, I've spent a lot of time dancing on a tightrope
between two cultural groups who misunderstand and distrust each other.
Open mind and shut mough is a good thing!

From the anthro perspective, you can see why I wrote this one up the
way I did (carefully, so people reading could come to their own
conclusions) ... it took me 6 months to get that in the rabbit hole to
my satisfaction.

I've worked on many women who were in arranged marriages, but this was
the first woman who had NEVER met her husband, never phoned him, never
seen a picture, never had been given the opportunity to approve or
disprove the arrangement. Every other woman I'd worked with, at some
stage, had been allowed that. So, I made the blunder of asking "Is he
a nice guy?" But, with the blunder, I got a window into how that
worked for her. I admired and respected her willingness to completely
submit herself to duty.

The cat and dog thing has come up in some variants. Many women from
overseas haven't been able to get the hang of animals in the house. Of
course, if they're only familiar with hungry, filthy scavengers, haram
at that .... then the cuddly pugdog and purring lap cat are 4 legged
oxymorons.

Maybe I can get back to this discussion later ... gotta run to class,
myself!

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Re: One that had to be rushed jolynn 04:53:32 10/24/2001 (0)
o-t on pets Alissa 15:20:53 10/23/2001 (1)
- Re: o-t on pets jolynn 04:47:44 10/24/2001 (0)

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: In my personal life, I've spent a lot of time dancing on a tightrope : between two cultural groups who misunderstand and distrust each other. : Open mind and shut mough is a good thing! : : From the anthro perspective, you can see why I wrote this one up the : way I did (carefully, so people reading could come to their own : conclusions) ... it took me 6 months to get that in the rabbit hole to : my satisfaction. : : I've worked on many women who were in arranged marriages, but this was : the first woman who had NEVER met her husband, never phoned him, never : seen a picture, never had been given the opportunity to approve or : disprove the arrangement. Every other woman I'd worked with, at some : stage, had been allowed that. So, I made the blunder of asking "Is he : a nice guy?" But, with the blunder, I got a window into how that : worked for her. I admired and respected her willingness to completely : submit herself to duty. : : The cat and dog thing has come up in some variants. Many women from : overseas haven't been able to get the hang of animals in the house. Of : course, if they're only familiar with hungry, filthy scavengers, haram : at that .... then the cuddly pugdog and purring lap cat are 4 legged : oxymorons. : : Maybe I can get back to this discussion later ... gotta run to class, : myself!
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