Re: One that had to be rushed

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Posted by jolynn on October 24, 2001 at 04:53:32:

In reply to: Re: One that had to be rushed posted by Catherine Cartwright Jones on October 23, 2001 at 14:24:31:

I noticed the care with which you presented this story and was very
pleased by it. Thank you.

have fun in class.

jolynn

: In my personal life, I've spent a lot of time dancing on a tightrope
: between two cultural groups who misunderstand and distrust each
other.
: Open mind and shut mough is a good thing!
:
: From the anthro perspective, you can see why I wrote this one up the
: way I did (carefully, so people reading could come to their own
: conclusions) ... it took me 6 months to get that in the rabbit hole
to
: my satisfaction.
:
: I've worked on many women who were in arranged marriages, but this
was
: the first woman who had NEVER met her husband, never phoned him,
never
: seen a picture, never had been given the opportunity to approve or
: disprove the arrangement. Every other woman I'd worked with, at
some
: stage, had been allowed that. So, I made the blunder of asking "Is
he
: a nice guy?" But, with the blunder, I got a window into how that
: worked for her. I admired and respected her willingness to
completely
: submit herself to duty.
:
: The cat and dog thing has come up in some variants. Many women from
: overseas haven't been able to get the hang of animals in the house.
Of
: course, if they're only familiar with hungry, filthy scavengers,
haram
: at that .... then the cuddly pugdog and purring lap cat are 4 legged
: oxymorons.
:
: Maybe I can get back to this discussion later ... gotta run to
class,
: myself!

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: I noticed the care with which you presented this story and was very : pleased by it. Thank you. : : have fun in class. : : jolynn : : : : In my personal life, I've spent a lot of time dancing on a tightrope : : between two cultural groups who misunderstand and distrust each : other. : : Open mind and shut mough is a good thing! : : : : From the anthro perspective, you can see why I wrote this one up the : : way I did (carefully, so people reading could come to their own : : conclusions) ... it took me 6 months to get that in the rabbit hole : to : : my satisfaction. : : : : I've worked on many women who were in arranged marriages, but this : was : : the first woman who had NEVER met her husband, never phoned him, : never : : seen a picture, never had been given the opportunity to approve or : : disprove the arrangement. Every other woman I'd worked with, at : some : : stage, had been allowed that. So, I made the blunder of asking "Is : he : : a nice guy?" But, with the blunder, I got a window into how that : : worked for her. I admired and respected her willingness to : completely : : submit herself to duty. : : : : The cat and dog thing has come up in some variants. Many women from : : overseas haven't been able to get the hang of animals in the house. : Of : : course, if they're only familiar with hungry, filthy scavengers, : haram : : at that .... then the cuddly pugdog and purring lap cat are 4 legged : : oxymorons. : : : : Maybe I can get back to this discussion later ... gotta run to : class, : : myself!
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